I did my unpopular opinions blog back last year and to my great surprise, it was well-received!! So I of course have more controversial things to talk about. If you’re going to read about me on my Internet space you might as well get to hear the juicy gossip right?
If any of my opinions offend you, well, you shouldn’t get offended. I don’t say anything aimed at anyone–I’m not vague–so this is just my feelings on particular groups, ideals, lifestyles, and so on. Also, if you ever want to be candid and post your unpopular opinions LINK ME. So much better to read than boring blogger fluff.
On Weddings: If you call me a jaded and bitter old hag on this, I won’t blame you. I’d agree. At one time in my life I planned a wedding. And then my beloved aunt died, I suffered severe trauma, and the relationship turned into a violent shitstorm and no wedding happened. So, just a disclaimer. ANYWAY. Even before I had that background to be prejudice in, I balked at the idea that some people spend 20,000 TO GET MARRIED. Know what else is fucking unnecessary? A 10,000 wedding. Know what else? A 5,000 wedding. Or even a 1,000 dollar wedding. A THOUSAND DOLLARS?!?!?!!??!! WHAT???? To me, there are more important things to celebrate. Why not have a party that huge for when you finally graduate college? Or for when you buy your first house? Those things are more important than marriage…to me. And the more I roll over the idea of walking down an aisle in a white dress, while people watch, and give a speech to the person I love in front of others, just really creeps me out. It seems medieval. I’m just saying. You can like weddings. But there are more important days in your life, I promise. Don’t waste the amount of a car or two years’ college tuition for a single day that everyone’s going to be groaning about having to attend. I just find it strange and unimportant and overhyped.
On HAES: For those of you who don’t frequent Tumblr, HAES (Health at Every Size) and “Thin Privilege” are arguments fat activists have about being fat and healthy, and about how thin people have life easier. Okay, first of all, you cannot weigh 600 pounds and be healthy. That’s a dangerous thing to teach people. “But I’m 250 and healthy!” 1) Probably not, and 2) Even if you are, health at every size means health at EVERY size. And no. Just no. I applaud those who love imperfect bodies. I applaud those who care enough to be healthy. But HAES is a cop-out and obesity is a disease and an epidemic. Point blank. They promote distrustment of doctors and while I personally make my own medical decisions as well, changing doctors because a doctor tells me to drop a few pounds if I weigh 400, is again, a dangerous thing to teach.
And on the concept of thin privilege: I won’t lie, thin people do have it easier. I understand that. I also understand thin does not equal healthy. What’s stupid is the complaining and shit, such as being up in arms about fat people having to pay more for airfare and demanding bigger seats on airplanes. If you flip that around, you would have a thin person arguing and saying “I should pay LESS since I’m smaller, and I want a smaller seat because my bony butt deserves it!” No.
On Porn: With Tumblr feminism in full swing, porn has been getting a lot of shit on both sides. It has defenders and naysayers. I have a bit of a mixed opinion on this so hopefully I manage to offend everybody. No but seriously. Here’s the bottom line. Well, there are a few bottom lines. Here they are.
1.) Weird kinks are pretty normal.
2.) People have been watching other people have sex for thousands of years. Literally.
3.) I believe that two or more consenting adults can participate in whatever they want.
That’s the thing—a lot of radfems say porn, particularly the violent type, is shameful to women and blahblahgender roles. I don’t think that ANYONE should do something they don’t like, I don’t think ANYONE should feel bad during their job. But if a woman or man wants to be involved in it, that is their choice. Consenting. Adults. Bottom line. I can’t tell someone not to get a crocodile tattoo on their face, thus I also cannot tell them to not record themselves in leather ropes gettin’ a spankin.’ I refuse to police others like that.
ON THE OTHER HAND. I feel that porn can be unhealthy for a few reasons. For one, it sets certain expectations about sex. Real sex is nothing like porn, and it bothers me so much that young people think it’s supposed to be that way. No wonder everyone has self esteem problems. I am also not a sex psychologist or anything, but I feel that it’s possible people who watch frequent/weirder/more violent porn might really not do so well with regular sex. I don’t know what the actual scientific verdict on it is, but I reserve the right to say: I don’t like the idea of it, and what it does. I also don’t like how sex workers are treated and looked at, though that’s society’s problem and not the workers.
I don’t know, guys. Sex is a weird thing. I wish people would realize how weird and awkward it is and not make it out to be the thing they need to conquer, be the best at, have the most of..and so on.
On Video Games/Tech Ruling Our Lives. Want to make me instantly dislike you? Say something condescending about your boyfriend/brother/husband/SOME DUMB MAN being a gamer and how immature it is.
The fact is, yes, in the beginnings, games were made for kids. This is 2014. We have some amazing technology, and games exist that are more immersive than any book could ever be. They take the best parts of storytelling–visuals, good characters, amazing plots–and they introduce something a book can’t. The magic of choice. YOU get to decide. Games are as worthy a pastime as reading, writing, crocheting, or watching shitty tv shows.
When people, mostly women in my experience, talk shit on how silly it is for people to cry when video game previews are unveiled, for people to spend 30 hours a week sitting in front of a screen, for it to be addictive and a time waster–no, fuck you. You are absolutely wrong. I’m not saying you have to like video games, but it’s time to respect them as a creative art form and stop demeaning the men and women who choose to adore them. Sorry but Supernatural is not superior to Skyrim, even if Jensen Ackles is hot.
Along with this rant goes the rant about how people say we need to unplug. I went a year without video games in Sweden, only played a few times here and there at Henri’s house, and it didn’t change my life or anything substantial. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with humans being connected to a constant source of inspiration and imagination. I think it does a lot of good for us. I personally make plenty of time to get outside and get a breath of air, and yes, I do it while carrying my cellphone in case there’s something I want to take a photo of, or someone I want to contact, or a song I want to listen to. You can be a technophobe if you’d like, but I personally believe in technology and all it offers our current generation.
AND THAT’S ALL OK BYE